About Lindy

This was me.... back in 2003

I was overwhelmed.

I had five children (I now have seven), and I felt no real connection to my husband in my marriage. I felt completely alone.

I wanted a better relationship, but I didn’t know what I was doing wrong, and I didn't know what I could do differently.

The only thing bringing me happiness was my children and playing music.

When everything finally made sense

In 2010, I discovered the different ways my husband and I thought about love.

It was a revelation to me, and it helped me make sense of what was happening in my marriage.

I learned that we were both showing love in completely different ways, based on our different ways of thinking.

I thought of love primarily through a doing lens — what I was doing to show love. I was sacrificing and putting all of my efforts into doing things that I would have done for myself, wanting him to feel valued and loved.

Though my husband wasn't doing for me, I learned he was also being loving in his way of thinking. He experienced love through a being lens — wanting me to be able to be myself, accepting me how I was, and not criticizing or judging me for anything I did.

Both of us were showing love in our own ways, but because we didn't think about love in the other person's way, we were completely missing it.

My Happily Ever After

I wish I could say I was able to save my marriage, but I was just learning about our different ways of thinking.

Over the next 15 years, I've been studying this "being" / "doing" concept and now I understand much better why things happened the way they did. It brings me peace.

I've also been able to help others improve their relationships, and understand how to think and show love in ways that truly bring connection. I'm grateful to be able to help others avoid the pain that I had to go through in order to learn it.

Now I still write and share music, but I'm also doing what I feel I was put on the earth to do—sharing what I've learned about these different ways of thinking. It's through hard experiences in life that we gain expertise into those hard things, and when we have the opportunity to bless someone with knowledge we've learned. It truly brings me joy.

If I can be a blessing or help to you in any way—whether through music or understanding different ways of thinking, please give me a call. I'd love to help.

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